As we look around us, we see women who have experienced birth and deaths, marriage and divorce, children and grandchildren, abundance and loss. What do all these different experiences “bring up for you”? That's a question we ask a lot in coaching. Some of these experiences resulted in shame, condemnation, and a drawing back from anything that looked too big or too important for you. For some of us, being undervalued was the norm and our default setting. Let me help you reframe ...

How often do we get into situations that we didn’t see coming and wind up disappointed, angry or in conflict with someone who matters? The blind spot analogy is in reference to a place on the road when you are driving that you can’t see. You can position the mirrors as well as you can, but there is a space that is usually so close to your car that it is not covered by either your rear view mirror or your side mirror.

Instead, I distracted myself with minutiae. The word minutiae (pronounced muh-NOO-shee) means unimportant, trivial stuff. I reminded myself of children when they're afraid of the dark, imagining a monster in the closet or under the bed. They cover their heads hoping not to see the monster they imagine is in their room. But the monster I was attempting to hide from is real...